Why It’s Important Not To Say Bad Things About People

Recently I had one of those “Oh God, I accidentally sent that email” moment. I included a colleague’s email address on an email where it was not intended. You know, your stomach drops immediately. You panic. You think “Shit, i’m screwed”. Then you think. “A way out! Yes! I can recall the message! It’s only been 3 minutes. No way anyone read it yet.” Of course they did. Now you have added insult to injury. Everyone will see your attempt to recall the message.

If this has not happened to you yet, it will one day. In this case everything turned out OK. I follow a rule. I usually try my best not say anything negative about anyone. So, even though the email was not intended for the given audience, nothing bad was said.

When groups are bad mouthing one individual i try to stay clear. While i am on this point. If people are speaking negatively about colleagues behind their back there is a good chance they talk about you as well. In this event i was spared by following my own guidance.

This can act as a lesson. You are far better off by staying positive. Even in circumstances where you make a mistake, your professionalism can save you.

One final note. This reminds me of a quote by First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt.

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.

— Eleanor Roosevelt

Let’s strive for a great mind.